Why Does No One Understand My Pain? How Spirit Guides Can Help When You Feel Tired of Being Blamed
Life has been difficult lately, hasn’t it? Everything feels heavy—like you’re carrying the weight of past hurts and current stresses all at once. You may be feeling misunderstood, disconnected, or even like the people closest to you are against you. If this feels true for you, it might be more than just a rough patch. It might be part of a much deeper journey that your spirit guides are trying to help you navigate.
What you’re experiencing could be a spiritual awakening. But contrary to popular belief, an awakening isn’t always a gentle process filled with peace and joy. It can be a chaotic and messy experience, where it feels like everything in your life is unraveling. The inner pain, old wounds, and trauma you’ve experienced are coming to the surface now, and it’s not easy to manage. Your spirit guides are there, though, offering support and trying to lead you through these difficult times.
In this storm, you may be feeling especially disconnected from your partner—the person who cares about you the most. You may feel like they don’t see you, don’t support you, or maybe even that they’re against you. But what’s really happening beneath the surface might surprise you.
The Inner Child Is Running the Show
Right now, the part of you that is driving your emotions and decisions is your inner child. This is the part of you that was hurt in the past, the part that never got the love, safety, or understanding it needed. And now, as your old wounds come up during this awakening, that child is running the show. Your spirit guides want you to acknowledge this part of yourself—they want you to heal these wounds so you can receive the love you deserve.
When the inner child takes over, everything feels like a threat. It feels like your partner doesn’t love you enough, that they’re not treating you the way you need to be treated. You might even find yourself pushing them away, reacting out of anger, fear, or frustration. These feelings are not about your partner—they are coming from the pain the inner child is carrying. Spirit guides can offer you a perspective that helps separate the past pain from your current reality, helping you to see your partner more clearly.
This part of you is deeply afraid—afraid of not being good enough, afraid of being abandoned, afraid of not being loved. That fear causes you to put up walls, to act in ways that push your partner away, even if you deeply love them. It’s like the hurt child in you is screaming out for protection, and instead of letting love in, you’re keeping it at arm’s length. Spirit guides are here to remind you that love is still possible, that healing is within reach.
How This Is Impacting Your Relationship
The truth is, this behavior is not only hurting you—it’s hurting your partner too. The person who loves you and has stood by your side is feeling the distance, the anger, and the walls you’ve put up. They may not understand why this is happening, and it’s likely hurting them deeply. You might not realize it, but you’re at risk of losing the best thing that has happened to you.
If you continue to allow the inner child to run your life, you may lose the person who loves you the most. Your partner can only give so much before they start to feel empty and alone. This is why there is urgency here—you need to take steps to heal, to change, before it’s too late. This person loves you, but love needs space to grow. Right now, the unhealed wounds are taking up all the space, leaving no room for the love you both deserve.
How Small Children Can Trigger Everything
If you have a small child of your own, this process can be even more intense. Children have an incredible way of mirroring back to us the very parts of ourselves we struggle with most. They bring out our vulnerabilities, our fears, and our old wounds in ways we never expect. They can trigger everything inside you that remains unhealed, bringing you to your knees in a way you never thought possible.
Your child’s needs, their cries for love and attention, and their innocence can bring up all the unmet needs of your own inner child. It might feel overwhelming, confusing, and like you’re failing at both parenting and being a partner. But this isn’t about failing—it’s about facing the parts of yourself that need healing. The intense emotions you’re feeling are actually an invitation to heal and grow, for yourself and for the people you love most.
The Role of Body Chemistry and Why You May Need More Support
One thing that’s important to understand is that the intense emotions you’re experiencing are not just about willpower or trying harder. When we go through deep emotional pain, it affects our body’s chemistry. Chronic stress and trauma put your nervous system in overdrive, keeping you in a constant state of “fight or flight.” Your brain is not just emotionally overwhelmed—it’s chemically overwhelmed.
Because of this, it might feel almost impossible to heal, think clearly, or even calm down enough to work on your relationship. This is why medication can be an important part of your journey right now. It’s not about weakness or failure—it’s about helping your brain and body get back into balance, so you can actually begin the work of healing yourself.
By stabilizing your body’s chemistry with medication through a psychotherapist, you’re giving yourself the chance to calm your inner child, to stop feeling like everything is a threat, and to finally begin the real work of understanding your emotions and healing the wounds that are keeping you stuck.
Healing Starts With Awareness, Spirit Guides, and Action
To save your relationship, the first thing you need to do is recognize that what’s happening isn’t just about your partner. The pain, the anger, the frustration—it’s coming from the past. It’s your inner child, scared and lashing out because it’s afraid of being hurt again. Your partner isn’t the enemy. They’re the person who loves you and wants to help you, but they can only do so if you let them in.
1. Work with Me One-on-One: I work with people to help them understand and heal their inner wounds, using the guidance of spirit guides to lead the way. Together, we can explore where the pain is coming from and how to begin releasing it. Healing is possible, and I can help you navigate these deep emotions in a safe and supportive way.
2. Consider Medication: If your body and mind are overwhelmed, medication may be necessary to help you stabilize enough to start the real work of healing. It’s not a forever solution, but it can be an essential step to help you think clearly, reduce anxiety, and regain control.
3. Start Healing the Inner Child: The part of you that’s scared and feeling unloved needs attention. I can help you heal your inner child. Schedule an Inner Child Healing with me.
4. Connect with Your Spirit Guides: Spirit guides can offer you the gentle encouragement and support you need to navigate these difficult emotions. Schedule an intuitive reading with me to receive guidance on your healing journey.
5. Communicate with Your Partner: Let your partner know you’re committed to healing, not just for yourself but for your relationship. Since most of us weren’t taught healthy communication, go to couples therapy to learn these skills together.
I Am Here to Support You
I know how heavy it feels to carry these burdens alone, but you don’t have to do this by yourself. Your spirit guides are always here, trying to help you, and I am here as well, to support you on this journey. If you’re ready to begin reconnecting with your spirit guides and healing your inner child, I invite you to schedule an intuitive reading with me. Together, we can begin to release the pain that’s been holding you back and help you rediscover the love that is waiting to grow.
