Questions to Ask a Psychic, Medium, or Intuitive Reader
If you are looking for questions to ask during an intuitive reading, psychic reading, mediumship session, or clairvoyant reading, you are in the right place. This guide will help you come up with clear, useful questions to ask about relationships, trauma, healing, work, life direction, spirit guides, and the deeper patterns behind what you are experiencing.
Whether you are preparing for your first session or returning with a specific question, this guide covers every area of life a reading can address. You do not need to arrive with perfect questions. You can come in with a feeling, a situation, or an area of life that needs clarity, and a reading will help you understand what is happening beneath the surface and what your next step is.
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General Questions to Ask a Psychic, Medium, or Intuitive Reader
| What you are feeling | Questions to ask |
|---|---|
| I feel something is going on with me but I am not sure what. | • What is going on in my energy body right now? • Where is my energy blocked? • What untapped resources or strengths do I have? • Do I have energetic leaks and if so why are they there? • How do I correct blocks and leaks and reconnect to my resources? • What is out of balance and how can I bring it back? |
| I feel there is something magical about me but I am not sure what it is. | • What are my innate abilities and resources? • What am I doing right in my life? • How do I connect more deeply to the spirit world? |
| I feel the spirit world wants to tell me something but I am not sure what. | • What is it that I need to know right now? • What do I need to heal, release, or learn in order to receive clear messages? • Is there anything within my soul or my physical expression that needs attention or release? |
| I would like to explore a specific problem, situation, or experience. | • What is going on in my energy in regards to this situation? • How is this situation impacting me and what is my role in it? • What is my lesson and what do I need to heal to resolve this and prevent it from repeating? • Did this problem begin in this lifetime or another? • If this lifetime: is the cause hereditary, environmental, or a belief I am still holding? • What lesson can I learn from this and how is it helping my soul grow? • What information would help me shift my perspective and move toward resolution? • How and why did I carry this into my current lifetime? • What do I need to know to resolve it or let it go? |
| I feel I need to explore my past lives. | • How is a past life affecting or contributing to what I am experiencing now? • How can knowledge of a past life help me resolve this issue or reach my goal? |
| I want to feel more confident. | • What is blocking me from stepping into my power? • How do I release these blocks? • What good things about myself am I not seeing? • What can I do to improve my ability to trust myself? |
| I am aware that I am changing but I am not sure what is happening or why. | • What is going on in my energy body right now? • What is shifting and why is it happening at this time? |
| I feel so lonely. | • How do I find connection with others, with God, with myself? • What creates this feeling of loneliness? • What is loneliness teaching me? • Am I actually lonely or is something else going on? |
| I feel scared. | • What am I actually scared of? • What creates fear that I am not aware of? • How do I shift this fear? |
| I am worried about my family. | • What do I need to understand about my role in this situation? • Am I overstepping boundaries or meddling? • Where are my boundaries being violated? • Where am I violating the boundaries of others? |
| I am struggling in my relationship with my partner. | • What is the primary energy or emotion in this relationship? • Where am I stuck and how am I contributing to the struggle? • Is this a pattern and if so what do I need to heal? • What is my lesson and what do I need to do to not repeat it? |
| I feel empty inside. | • Why do I feel empty and where is the disconnect? • What is missing? • What do I not yet understand about what I need? |
| I feel unfocused. | • Where am I avoiding looking in my life? • How is being unfocused benefitting me? • What is keeping my attention from what I want? |
| I feel sad. | • What is the source of my sadness? • Is my sadness a symptom of something deeper? |
| My kids won’t listen to me. | • Is it true that my kids don’t hear me or is something else happening? • What is my contribution to this? • How can I shift so that my kids respond differently? |
| I am frustrated with my children. | • What is the root issue of my frustration? • What aspect of myself needs healing here? • What would shift the relationship so we are both happier? |
| I am so tired. | • Where is my energy going? • What are my energetic blocks and leaks and how do I correct them? • Where can I get more energy? |
| I am tired of therapy and nothing is changing. | • What is keeping this issue in place even though I understand it? • What part of me is still holding on? • What am I missing about why this pattern has not shifted? • Is this issue still active in my body or energy even though I understand it mentally? • What deeper layer of healing is ready to be addressed now? |
| I am not happy with my physical body. | • What is my body trying to tell me? • How is my body helping me function in this world? • What do I need to learn, release, or accept so that I can love my body unconditionally? |
| I don’t feel like I belong on Earth. | • Why do I have this feeling? • What can I do to feel more connected? |
Questions to Ask About Trauma and Healing in an Intuitive Reading
| What you are feeling | Questions to ask |
|---|---|
| I want to look at a traumatic experience. | • What is this experience still affecting in me? • What part of me needs attention, care, or healing? • What pattern began here that is still influencing my life today? • What am I still holding because of this experience? • What am I ready to understand now? • What would support my healing in the most aligned way? |
| An event happened in my childhood and I feel like it still holds me back. | • Why am I still holding on and how is this keeping me safe? • What do I need to do to release this once and for all? Note: a reading gives you information and clarity. To heal and release the actual trauma, schedule a Deep Healing session with a focus on inner child healing. |
| I have periods of my life I don’t remember. | • Is it relevant to my current healing process to remember these times? • Is it time to remember? • Is it possible to find healing without remembering? Note: I do not recommend asking any reader to tell you what happened in periods you don’t remember without proper support in place. If you want to explore this safely, schedule a Deep Healing session instead of a reading. |
| I feel stuck like something is holding me back. | • What is holding me back and how can I release it? • How is being stuck serving me right now? To remove what is keeping you stuck, schedule an Energy Clearing or Deep Healing session. |
| I am afraid of something specific (flying, the dark, a situation). | • Why do I have this fear? • Where does it come from? • What can I do to release it? To release a fear or phobia, schedule an Energy Clearing session. |
| My heart feels trapped or contracted. | • Why am I feeling this way and what am I not seeing? • What is going on in my other energy centers that is influencing this? • What can I do to release this feeling? • How is having a closed heart serving me right now? |
| I don’t have feelings or I have a hard time identifying them. | • What stands between me and my feelings? • How is not feeling protecting or serving me? • How do I begin to befriend my feelings? To explore your feelings at a deeper level, schedule an Energy Clearing session. |
| I constantly say negative things about myself. | • Who taught me to do this? • How am I benefitting from the negative self-talk? • What will happen if I stop? • What is the first step I should take to change this? |
Questions to Ask About Relationships in an Intuitive Reading
| What you are feeling | Questions to ask |
|---|---|
| I feel really good about my relationship with my partner. | • What do I offer and receive in this relationship? • What is the dynamic between us? • How do we support each other in growth both individually and together? |
| I feel ready to have a deeper relationship with my partner. | • What can I understand, release, or shift to expand our relationship? • Is there anything standing in the way of a deeper connection? • What is our energetic connection like right now? |
| I want to understand my relationship with my partner. | • What do I offer and receive within this partnership? • What can I understand, shift, or release to improve this relationship? • What pattern am I repeating and what lesson am I learning? • How do we connect energetically and is it healthy? • What are our patterns and archetypes? |
| I feel like I have lost connection with my partner. | • What is the disconnection really about? • How is this disconnect benefitting me right now? • Is this part of a pattern? • What can I do to restore connection or understand what is actually happening? |
| My partner makes mean or critical comments about me. | • Why am I in a relationship with someone who treats me this way? • Why am I allowing my boundaries to be violated? • What do I need to heal so this dynamic does not repeat in my next relationship? • Am I projecting negative feelings toward myself onto my partner? |
| My partner is having an affair. | • What is the truth of this affair for me? • Did I subconsciously choose a partner who would do this and if so why? • What is my lesson here? • How do I heal from this? |
| I am afraid of my partner. | Please note that domestic abuse takes many forms and can happen to anyone. If you feel you may be in a domestic violence situation, please let me know during the session and I will connect you to someone who can help. |
| I feel I am at the end of my relationship. | • What is my role in this situation? • What is my lesson? • What do I need to heal so this does not repeat with a new partner? • How do I find healing for myself now? |
| I want more clarity about my relationship. | • What am I meant to learn from this soul connection? • What are our soul level agreements if any? • How do our previous lifetimes affect this relationship? • What are my primary life lessons from this relationship? • What past life block is affecting my choices in this lifetime? |
Questions to Ask About Life Purpose, Soul Path, and Spiritual Growth
| What you are feeling | Questions to ask |
|---|---|
| I want to understand my soul’s purpose or mission. | • What types of memories does my soul carry most strongly? • What am I here on earth to explore and learn? • How do I go about finding my purpose? • How can I move toward living it? |
| I feel like I keep doing things that don’t help me. | • Why am I self-sabotaging? • What patterns no longer serve me? • What do I receive for holding onto these patterns? • How can I let them go? |
| I feel my soul calling to me but I am not sure what it is saying. | • Where do I hear my soul calling most clearly? • How can I respond to the call? • What is the call about for me right now? |
| I feel like something about my soul is holding me back. | • Does my soul carry any bindings I need to know about and release? • Are there unfinished soul or karmic contracts? • What do I need to do to release them? To work at this level, schedule a Deep Healing session with a focus on soul retrieval. |
Questions to Ask About Work, Career, and Business in an Intuitive Reading
| What you are feeling | Questions to ask |
|---|---|
| I love what I do but there is no joy. | • Why do I not experience joy in my work? • What is the disconnect between what I do and how I feel doing it? |
| I hate my boss. | • Why am I triggered by my boss? • What do I subconsciously expect from my boss? • What is my lesson in this relationship? • Is this a pattern? • What do I need to understand to improve this dynamic? |
| I don’t like my co-workers. | • How do I compare myself to them? • What triggers me about my co-workers and is it a pattern? • Are my boundaries being violated or am I overstepping theirs? • How is my communication style contributing to the disconnect? |
| My boss favors someone else over me. | • Is this actually true or is it my perception? • Why do I need my boss’s approval? • Who else do I need approval from? • How am I contributing to this situation? • What fears does this trigger in me? |
| I don’t like my job. | • What exactly don’t I like? • What keeps me from doing work I enjoy? • Is my job a mirror for something else in my life? • Is it the job or something in me? |
| I want another job. | • What do I hope to get from a new job? • Is there anything I need to heal so the same situation does not repeat? • Am I trying to run away from something? |
| I can’t wait for the day to end. | • What do I need to let go of? • Where am I losing power? • What is really going on beneath this feeling? |
| I hope tomorrow will be better. | • What keeps me from being present today? • Where am I losing power right now? • What do I need to heal or shift to make tomorrow different? |
| I am tired of this job. | • What would a new job actually bring me? • What is this job reflecting back to me? • What else in my life feels the same way? |
| I want a promotion. | • How would a promotion fulfill me? • What is keeping me from asking for or receiving one? |
| Things have slowed down and I don’t know why. | • Why do I feel things are slow? • What can I shift or release to get things moving again? • What am I ignoring that would be helpful to acknowledge? • Is slow actually bad or is there something here for me? |
Questions to Ask About Spirit Guides in an Intuitive Reading
| What you are feeling | Questions to ask |
|---|---|
| I want to connect more deeply with my spirit guides. | • Which spirit guides are working with me right now? • What are they helping me with at this stage of my life? • How can I strengthen my connection with them in a grounded way? |
| I am not sure if I am hearing my guides or just my imagination. | • How do my guides communicate with me most clearly? • What does real guidance feel like for me specifically? • What blocks clarity for me right now? |
| I keep seeing signs and repeating numbers. | • What signs have my guides been sending me? • What are they trying to get my attention about? • What message am I missing right now? |
| I feel disconnected from guidance. | • Why do I feel cut off from my guides? • What is making it harder for me to receive? • What would help me feel more open and connected again? |
| I want to know what my guides want me to focus on. | • What is the main message my guides want me to understand right now? • What lesson is most active in my life? • What is my next aligned step? |
| I want to understand a dream, symbol, or intuitive feeling. | • Was this dream or sign connected to guidance? • What was I being shown? • How does this connect to what is happening in my life right now? |
| I want to know which guides are with me. | • What kinds of guides are working with me right now? • Why are they here? • What support does each one bring? |
| I feel blocked from trusting what I receive. | • What is making me doubt my own inner knowing? • What fear or pattern is interfering with trust? • How can I build stronger trust in the guidance I receive? |
| I want to receive clearer messages in everyday life. | • What is the easiest way for me to receive guidance day to day? • What practices would help me hear more clearly? • What am I overlooking that I should be paying attention to? |
| I want to understand how my guides are helping with a specific situation. | • What are my guides showing me about this relationship, decision, or life change? • What do they want me to see that I am not seeing yet? • What action would bring me into better alignment? |
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